My tendency to make assumptions and project my own attitudes and ideas has been a major stumbling block to being objective and open to listening. For example, if someone comes to talk to me about a problem with their current relationship I am likely to draw conclusions based on my beliefs about past relationships of theirs or other people, particularly if I know the partner. The problem arises that I really believe my conclusions are correct rather than realizing they come from my own head, not listening. My best tool for realizing when I am doing this is mindful meditation, oriented at looking at my source of information.
