Projecting my own issues on to someone rather than listening directly to them is certainly something I have been guilty of in the past. My projections frequently results in false assumptions and misunderstanding, obscuring connection. What I have done in the past was to subconsciously take my own issues and project them on others. For example, I used to remain angry over various events for a long time, even years. I would also assume that others did the same, thinking they were still angry long after they had forgotten the event, I would misunderstand them, assuming they were still angry. I need to guard against that sort of thing in order to connect.
