Saying Hard and Loving Things

I am aware of always taking one of two types of action.  I can “comfort the afflicted”, which is generally pleasant for the recipient or I can “afflict the comfortable”, which is frequently not enjoyed by the recipient.  Today I did a lot of the latter, meaning I brought up things that people did not want to talk about, something I find difficult to do but also important, in the situation where someone has asked for my input.  I try to speak in such a way that it “increases the integrity of the universe” or is loving and constructive.  It helps to get my own ego out of the way and to not listen to the internal voice that says “they are not going to like this”.  My immediate assumption, if I listen, is that they won’t like me.